Getting affected by people's opinion

Getting affected due to other people's opinion is normal, right? Well I thought so too. But different people can say anything to us and should we let them define us?

I watched a video recently. Sister Shivani was explaining this same concept. She took the example of a flower she had nearby.

She wanted us to imagine ourselves as this flower. And imagine other people's opinions as whatever they say of this flower.

Some will adore these flowers with praises and poems while some will say that they don't like these! Some may find it the most adorable thing on the planet while other may ...umm you get it.

She asks a very important question, "Will everyone describe it the same way?"

No, right? 

Everyone will describe it a bit differently but the flower is the same for all. 

When there's the same thing, why is everyone describing it differently? 

Shouldn't it be the same?

So if everyone is describing the flower differently, who are they really describing? 

The flower or something else? 

Because the flower is the same. 

Then she says something very important.

Each description depends on the PERSON who has said it.

Now imagine the flower getting affected by the different descriptions. It will feel high and low whole day. 

"Every time someone has an opinion about you, remember that they are reflecting their own personality."

If they tell good things, thank them for finding good in things. If they tell not so good things, never mind, they might be having a bad mood today. Even if they don't like us every day, never mind, they might not like us. 

Nowadays, many people have low emotional energy so we shouldn't expect them to give us something. For example- a sweet Kheer given to a person with cold will call it bitter. So should the Kheer get hurt? Noo wayyy.

Just because you don't like me, doesn't mean there's something wrong with me.

Read that again.

It's just that YOU don't like me, which is fine.

It is absolutely fine.

You can't find a single person on Earth whom the whole world will appreciate.

That was one useful lesson I thought of recording here.

See ya!